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Are You Really Ready? - Questions to ask yourself before you start dating

Posted: Thursday, October 07, 2004

by Jennifer Lester- Online Dating Expert
www.Lovepersonally.com

Are you really ready? How many times have you found yourself in a dead-end relationship? You know he/she is not the right person for you. You feel trapped. You feel lonely even though you are not alone. These are things that can happen if we jump into relationships too soon. We settle. We settle for someone who we may be attracted to, but we don’t really have any future with. If you want to stop wasting your time in these types of relationships there are steps you can take.

Before you take that leap into the dating pool, make sure you are really ready. Make sure you are at ease with yourself. You can never truly love someone else if you do not completely love yourself first. That line from the movie Jerry Maguire is a fallacy. When Tom Cruise tells Renee Zellweger "You complete me" he made us forget that it is really better to complete ourselves. It sounded so romantic at the time, but you should really look for someone who brings out the best of you, not someone who completes you. You need to be complete all by yourself.

Whether you have been through a bad break-up or have never really had a serious relationship, it is important that you take a personal inventory before you begin.

Ask yourself the following questions and write your answers down so that you can look back on them at any time to be sure you stay on the right track.

Who am I?
What do I want?
Where do I want my life to be in 5 years?
What type of person would I want to share my life with?
What are my strengths?
What are my weaknesses?
Is there anything I would change about myself, and why?
What are the things that I will not tolerate in a relationship?

Take your time answering all of these questions. It is a small price to pay for the time you will not be wasting dating the wrong kind of people at the wrong time for you. In the long run it is better to be alone for a while then always lonely.

Love yourself first – others will follow.

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